Friday, January 30, 2009
This particular knotted stomach problem involved my oldest, Eli. I think I am quite honest and know not only my weak points but also my children's. I will be the first to admit that Eli is not perfect, I'll share a couple examples: *long pause* *crickets chirping* Oh! I have it, he is not an expert at wiping his bum, but this is mostly my fault and might be due to the fact that he does not have long arms? Who knows. In all honesty, Eli is a sensitive kid, he does his fair share of whining and complaining but he also a great little kid with lots of love for his family and friends.
We have long been an acquaintance of a particular family that has a boy Eli's age. We have different dynamics, like birth order, that might make it difficult for the two boys to click well. And all the rest may be my opinion (or fact, as I like to see it). Since the moment they have played, there has been a sort of competition and I am being honest when I say that it is one-sided. Eli doesn't get it, his mind does not work that way yet, if ever. And he comes home a standing a little less tall (and frankly, we can't spare inches people). Yes, he wants to win but it is more about the game than his own personal glory. I have seen countless times where this boy has purposely left Eli out, belittled him, been condescending to him and downright mean. Needless to say, we do not have many play dates. For the last few years, I have kind of steered Eli toward other friends, different extra-curricular activities and such but once again we find each other in the same proximity. Without getting too specific, this boy was so blatantly rude to Eli that I could not even stand it. Am I too vague?
Let me give a totally hypothetical situation. Say the two boys were on the same basketball team and I can honestly say, Eli is pretty good. He has good ball control, he passes a lot, he is getting the game. He does not however have flare. He does not watch the pro-ballers and copy their fancy moves, facial expressions and all that. This other boy is good, no doubt, really good. He WILL NOT pass to Eli. At all. The last straw, hypothetically, was when the boy was throwing it in after the other team scored and Eli was right there waiting for it while another little boy was heading back up the court. Eli was the only one the boy could have thrown it in to but he wouldn't. For 20, maybe 30 hypothetical seconds, he ignored Eli, kept calling to another kid and finally got his attention and passed it to him. It was so blatant. I just looked at his mom and her little smirk and then the knots started.
I don't think Eli should control the ball all the time, I do think however that this is quite indicative of how our relationship has been with this boy. And I wish I could say we don't have to deal with this situation often, but for many reasons, we do. Frankly, I don't have many options that I haven't already put into use. Then Eli came home one day, totally dejected. It had to do with this boy. I have had it. I am at a loss for what to do. I am trying hard to not try and control the situation and let Eli work things out on his own but, wow, it is getting to me.
So friends, what do you do when you see your kids being mistreated? Do you fight the 7 year old bully? What do you say to your child? Why is parently so freaking hard? What if my reaction to this situation totally changes the course of history? What if we get kicked off our street? To be serious, I need some mad coping skills, because this particular situation is not going to change, so give it to me straight people. I promise, I will not mope out here in blogland again, but I need the skills.
Wednesday, January 28, 2009
Tuesday, January 27, 2009
What do you think of the article? Genius-y.
I am posting this picture taken by Paige, again, because a) he is waking, b) it makes me feel warm and c) because I think she needs to come take more.
It might be a lonely Valentine's day for him.
Monday, January 26, 2009
Friday, January 23, 2009
And, today Caroline was saying butt head. I told her we don't say that word, she said, "Ok" and then replaced butt head with butt lips? WHERE does she hear these things? Eli never did this.
Thursday, January 22, 2009
When we go home, Caroline and I talked about why she loves Daddy, Eli and Joey and I wrote it down for her on several hearts. I did some from Joey and I too. Eli loved to read them when he got home and at dinner we talked about how there will be a spot where they can get a blank heart and write down why they love each other, or something special about a family member, or friend. Then we will tape it to the wall (using a paint/low tack tape, so it won't pull of my butter cream paint). Hopefully we can fill up the whole wall by Valentine's day.
I am going to add to Wall of Love how much I love Joey going through my box of Raisin Bran and eating all the raisins.
Wednesday, January 21, 2009
I love the fresh approach found in Three Wheels Design and Paper. This card is the perfect mix for a boy for Valentine's Day. Eli would still feel super manly handing out this pirate. They have other designs, have a look.
If you are searching for vintage Valentine cards that remind you of your childhood, have a look at Printable. They have a ton to choose from and it will make you smile.
I absolutely love the sense of humor in the cards at The Rasilisk. I really love that they have a selection that is appropriate for kids and a selection that is appropriate for adults. And if you are just looking for a way to say "thanks", look here.
Shabby Chic Crafts has a ton of printables, and I love this L-O-V-E e-card set. It would be perfect for a card or to hang on ribbon on your wall. The conversation hearts set is very cute, too. ***Veronica of Shabby Chic Crafts just emailed me the link to her great blog, http://www.shabbychiccrafts.blogspot.com/. Please go look, you will find great ideas for homemade Valentine fare and some free downloads of love coupons!
And finally, marialunate is so freakin' adorable, I can't stand it. The shop is full of beautiful printables including a couple for Valentines, like this one. But I also think it would be fun to print some of the Little Reds and give them out from your child's girl friends, because what little girl doesn't love paper dolls?
And now I am off to Red Mango, by myself. I need to show myself a little love right now, so I can show it to the family. Know what I mean? Would you choose any of these cards?
Tuesday, January 20, 2009
Whether you liked the man or not, agreed with his politics or not, I think we can agree that Former President George W. Bush quite possibly had the most difficult job on the planet. This man was the leader of the free world. This man made decisions, popular or not, he felt were in the best interest of the nation. The man was lambasted numerous times throughout the last 8 years, justified or not. Watching him today, with the grace in which he passed the proverbial baton, made me admire him as a person. I was impressed with the dignity, warmth and poise both he and Laura Bush showed to the incoming First Family and others.
I am also impressed with President Obama. This is the beginning of a new presidency. He has brought hope to many people in this nation. He has the opportunity to bridge divides. He, no doubt, has the nation's best interest in mind. He wants America to be great. But it isn't just him that makes America great, it is each American.
These things were running through my mind:
I hope that we can each criticize less and support more.
I hope that we can point fingers less and hold hands more.
I hope the we can see each other as Children of God, not just Americans, and not just Mormons, Muslims, Catholics, Black, White, of Japanese descent, of Mexican descent, male, female, Repulican, Democrat and everything in between.
I hope we can do less tearing down of one another and more service to one another.
I hope we can show more respect for each other's opinions.
I hope we can be proud but not boastful.
I hope we can show kindness to someone everyday.
I hope we can teach each other positively each day.
I hope we can do random acts of kindness, not only for strangers but for those in our homes.
I hope we can be more tolerant of each other.
I hope we can be more open-minded and yet not be wishy-washy.
I hope we can have less violence and more peace.
I hope we can be less of the problem and more of the solution.
I hope we can teach our children all of these things and give them sense of self so that they can be the future strength of this nation.
I hope we can be dignified.
And really, instead of "I hope we can..." I should be writing "I hope I can..." because the change that everyone is looking for should really start with me, as an individual. Do I think as a nation of millions of people, of all different races, all socio-economic levels, of millions of different personalities, that we can make a change for the better? To use a commonly spoken phrase, Yes we can.
Carson Pirie Scott
Saks Fifth Avenue
Friday, January 16, 2009
I am quite unproductive on the Valentine front, but which I mean the kids just sign their names to their Hello Kitty or Pokemon Valentine. But I just saw this over at Kate's Paperie and thought it was cute and just easy enough to keep Caroline's attention. Even better, you just download the pdf from their site and print it up.
Thursday, January 15, 2009
Wednesday, January 14, 2009
I really want a silhouette of each of my family members and keep thinking I will do it myself but am loving this shop, Petite Debutante. I love this little girl, I am sure the one they do of my Caroline and other children will be just as beautiful.
Oh the beauty, Papers' Edge. This is a different take on the silhouette, paper cut images, some custom others giclee. I'm in love. If the family portrait is a little more than your wallet can muster at the moment, have a look at the rest of what she offers.
We have a love of all things nesting dolls here at this house. My grandma has lots of them and that is what my kids head for first thing as we walk through the door. I am sooo super super tempted to just order these tonight, before I let my budget talk me out of it. How fantastic are these dolls from Home Crafts Catalog?
I love this silhouette (I feel like I am using that word a lot tonight, but the thesaurus would just be redundant, right?) Maybe Dave will read this and order it for me (it worked on Christmas). Le Papier Designs has some beautiful works.
What do you think? Do you like these picks? I need to hear from you, at least to feel the love.
Tuesday, January 13, 2009
But there are quite a few other girls that I like. Melissa, Kari, Nikki, some others. Why am I wasting this time? Paige, can I nominate you for the next Bachelorette? I am being serious.
Saturday, January 10, 2009
We set out cookies and milk for Santa the night before and we set out water for the reindeer, and luckily Rudolph had some because his nose always colors the water, which is extra fun for the kids.
It was nice to be in our own home doing our own family things for this Christmas, though we have fun when we are away. Oddly, I was the first one up. I heard a big bang around 6:30am and found out later it was our shed door that had been blown open, but thought it was some Christmas morning robbers. In any case, I couldn't go back to sleep. The kids didn't get up until just before 8 and we had to go and wrestle Dave out of bed - not our usual morning routine.